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Do you ever have days where you feel like your life is straight off an episode of Jerry Springer? You’ve just gotten a divorce and your ex is immediately in a new relationship so now you not only have to get along with dad, but you have to make nice with the stepmom as well. Some days it is easy, other days you just want to pull your hair out and SCREAM. But even on the bad days, you bite your tongue because you want to do what is right for the kids – they are what really matter.
I’m Des Jones and I’m an Independent Co-parent and blogger. I support single co-parenting moms who are struggling to get along with their ex’s new spouse as well as being on their own. I help them to set boundaries and find their independence so they can work together as a team to create a positive and loving environment for themselves and their children.
How I achieved what I have and how I can help your on your journey
My journey started straight out of college – I got married and moved from the boring landscape of Kansas City to the beautiful, mountainous frontier of Alaska (just because) all within a month of each other. I had no family (other than my husband) or friends even remotely close by to catch me if I fell. I was both excited and a little scared to begin this journey.
A couple years later, when my oldest daughter (16) was about a year old, we decided financially it made the most sense for me to stay at home. I’ve always worked, all the friends we had made worked, so now to not work – I had no idea what to do with myself all day. I was not June Cleaver and had no interest in becoming her either. Luckily I found the MOMS Club which kept me and my daughter busy.
Then after nearly 8 years of marriage, a second daughter (14) and another move (to Oregon), we decided to get a divorce.
Again I was alone and had to figure things out on my own, he was already in another relationship, so I had to figure out not only how to be a single mom but also how to co-parent and get along with this new woman (aka wifey).
Through all of this, I learned INDEPENDENCE – I learned that I was strong enough and smart enough to find the tools I needed to get through the challenges laid in front me in order to make it on my own. It hasn’t always been pretty but I’ve managed.
Co-parenting is difficult especially when your former spouse remarries and more ‘parents’ and opinions are added to the mix.
I want to share my experiences with you – help you develop a working relationship with the other parent and stepparent, find support for you and your kids, and help you navigate the challenges of being on your own. I’ll share parenting tips; including discussing BIG topics relating to your kids that you’d like handled the same no matter whose house they’re at and different scheduling ideas – from parenting plans to the everyday taxi services of getting kids to all their activities. I’ll also share kid-friendly recipes, activities and crafts that have been a lifesaver for me during this journey. I will share the good, the bad and the ugly in hopes you’ll find something useful.
I’d also love to hear from you – What challenges are you facing? What advice do you have to share? I welcome your comments and feedback. You can drop me a line using the form below or email me directly at email@example.com. Join my mailing list at the bottom of the page too to get emailed weekly updates and newsletters.
I remember what it was like for me when I first got divorced – it was hard to establish boundaries, and to find my voice especially being on my own with no one else to back me up. Hopefully, with the right tools and support, we can get through it together.
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